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Part– II (Final)

This is based on the book “al-Kabaair” by Imam Shamsuddin az-Zahabi, later on edited and expanded as “The Seventy Major Sins”. It is expected to read with the broader picture without opening doors to Shaitaan (Satan) and negative thoughts.

They replied: “We submit, O Messenger of Allah! Is he not blind and cannot see us.

On this the Prophet (SallAllaho Alaihe WaSallam) said: “But you are not blind and can see him.” (Abu Daawood, Tirmizi and Ahmad)

Thus, both men and women should not look at each other except because of necessity. Once there was a woman who used to display her beauty when she went outdoors. After her death, her kinsmen saw her in a dream standing before Allah (Subhaanahu Wa Ta'aalaa) dressed in transparent clothes. Then the wind blew and exposed her.

Accordingly, Allah (Subhaanahu Wa Ta'aalaa) rejected her and said take her leftward to the Jahannam since she was displaying her beauty to the world.

Hadhrat Ali Ibne Abi Taalib said that “1 came to the Prophet accompanied with Faatimah but we noticed him weeping vehemently. I said: “I sacrifice my father and mother upon you, O Messenger of Allah! Why do you weep?”

He said: “O Ali! In the night Journey (Israa) when I was taken up to the sky, I saw some women of my Ummah (Nation) suffering some types of torture. Therefore, I wept because of their sever tortures. I saw a woman who was hanging from her hair and her brain was boiling. Another Woman was hanging from her tongue and a boiling fluid was being poured into her mouth. Another woman whose legs were tied to her breasts and her hands to her forehead and another who was hanging from her breasts. Another whose head was like a pig’s and body like a donkey and suffered million types of torture, and another woman who had the shape of a dog while the fire pierced her month until it left her body from the anus and the angels were also scourging her with lashes of fire. Upon hearing that, Faatimah asked: “O pleasure of my eyes! What were they doing to suffer such torture?

Then the Prophet said: “O daughter! As for the woman who was hanged from hair, she would not cover her hair from men. The woman who was hanged from her tongue used to bring harm to her husband; the one who was hanged from her breasts cumulated her husband’s bed. The woman whose legs were tied to her breasts and hands to forehead and suffering from serpents and scorpions would not clean her body from major impurity or menstruation, and neglected Salaah. The woman whose head was like a pig’s and had a donkey’s body was a talebearer and lair. As for the last one, she used to remind recipients of her charity to them and was envious. O daughter! Woe to her who disobeys her husband.”

Hadhrat Muaaz Ibne Jabal related that the Prophet (SallAllaho Alaihe WaSallam) said: “Whenever a woman causes annoyance and torture to her husband in this world, his mate from among the hour is of Jannah says to her: may Allah ruin you, do not cause your husband annoyance, for, he is only your guest, and will soon leave thee to join us in Jannah.” (Tirmizi, Ibne Hibbaan, Ahmad and Ad-Dailami)

Similarly, a husband is commanded to treat his wife kindly and tenderly. He should also be patient if she mistreats him. Food, clothes and kind treatment are also binding for a man to give to his wife. Allah (Subhaanahu Wa Ta'aalaa) says:

وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِٱلۡمَعۡرُوفِۚ

“Live with them in the recognized manner (of kindness).” (An-Nisaa 4:19)

The Prophet (SallAllaho Alaihe WaSallam) said: “Listen! Treat women kindly, they are like prisoners in your hands. Beyond this do not use anything from them. If they are guilty of flagrant misbehaviors, you can remove them from your beds and beat them but do not inflict upon them any severe punishment. Then, if they obey you, you do not have recourse to anything else against them. Listen! You have your rights upon your wives and they have their rights upon you. Your right is that they shall not allow anyone you dislike to trample your bed and do not permit them to enter your home.” (Tirmizi and Ibne Hibbaan)

The Prophet (SallAllaho Alaihe WaSallam) said: “The best of you is whoever treats his wife kindly.” (Tirmizi, Ibne Hibbaan and Ibne Maajah)

The Prophet (SallAllaho Alaihe WaSallam) used to treat women very tenderly. He said: “Whoever remains patient with regards to the misbehavior of his wife, Allah will give him a reward as great as Ayub’s for his affliction. Likewise, if a woman keeps patient with regards to the misbehavior of her husband, Allah will give her a reward as great as Aasia . (the Pharaoh’s wife).” (Aa-Haakim in al-Mustadrak)

Once, there was a man who came to Hadhrat ‘Umar to complain about the misbehavior of his wife. While he was waiting for Hadhrat ‘Umar by the door, he heard Hadhrat ‘Umar’s wife speaking to him harshly but Hadhrat ‘Umar was keeping silent. Thereupon, the man went back and thought that if this is the case of Hadhrat ‘Umar who was decisive and he was also the Chief of the Believers what about me? Then Hadhrat ‘Umar went out and noticed him leaving. He called him and said: “What do you want?”

The man said: “O Chief of the Believers! I came to complain about my wife’s misconduct and her indecency towards me but when I heard your wife I went back.”

Hadhrat ‘Umar said: “O brother! I endured her misbehavior for some rights upon me to her: she cooked my food, bakes my bread, washes my clothes and suckles my babies. She is not required to do such work. Furthermore, my heart is repelled from the unlawful because of her. Thereby, I endured her.”

The man said: “So is my wife, O Chief of the Believers!”

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